I firmly believe that all good family dinners end with a sweet treat. That or a nice cheese + glass of port. When I personally eat desserts, I sometimes get strange looks- like a dietitian shouldn’t be eating dessert! And I know for many of my clients, this can be a touchy topic especially around holiday times.
The interesting thing is that more often than not when foods are categorized as “off-limits” or “bad” to eat, a mental preoccupation with that food occurs in the mind. See if the following situation applies to you: You determine a particular food- maybe ice cream, cookies, a salty snack- is bad. Maybe you don’t even keep it in the house. But you can’t stop thinking about the food, and inevitability find a way to eat it anyway. Perhaps you feel out of control with this food, eating more than what is comfortable, and you might feel physically too full or sick. You then feel guilty about losing your control and say you won’t do it again. But then it probably happens again and becomes a self-feeding cycle.
Depriving yourself of your favorite foods creates an inability to effectively regulate hunger and satiety cues- all of which make the ability to eat in moderation all the more difficult.
There is absolutely reason to eat foods higher in sugar, salt and saturated fat in moderation (which looks differently for everyone). However I think it’s important to point out that the way we think about and communicate about food is very important and should be intentional- just as intentional about why we choose to eat a food. Food is more than just nutrients or energy- it also fulfills social and cultural roles.
So this Thanksgiving, if you typically struggle with feeling out of control around sweets- try giving yourself permission to enjoy them and see what happens. Slow down, take a breath, and pay attention to your favorite flavors. Chances are if you give yourself the opportunity to enjoy your food without putting moral judgement on yourself, you will feel more in control.